In September, I will be turning 27 – meaning that I will officially be in my late 20s, real adult shit. No more telling people that I’m in my late-mid-twenties. By 27 Hendrix was already considered the greatest guitar player of all time, Kurt Cobain was the lead singer of the biggest band of his decade, and in the turn of the 21st century – artists, Amy Winehouse and Kim Jong-Hyun had also both passed away at 27 at the height of their popularity. Of course, they’re the extreme but so many of your friends in your late 20’s are getting married, buying houses, having babies, and here I am writing about this in my mother’s basement, working my regular 9-5 job everyday, trying my best to keep my head above water. But again, this is supposed to be uplifting and not sad so let me get to the uplifting part.
First off, let’s call a spade a spade. The reason why you feel any negativity regarding a friend moving onto great things in life is because you feel insecure about your standing. Wondering when you’ll meet that special someone, reach a financial milestone, or start a family. You feel sad so every time someone posts these things that you want but can’t have – you feel lesser. Well let’s get that out of here. You don’t have to feel insecure about something that isn’t about you. For instance, your friend getting an awesome promotion has very little to do with you – rather it has absolutely nothing to do with you, period. So logically speaking, why do you feel insecure? I really do feel like you should feel better about your friends and celebrate with them. Like how great is it that your friends – the people you grew up with, learned with, shared great moments with are doing something awesome in their lives.
By proximity, you might be pretty awesome too. I’m sure their awesomeness rubbed off on you and you might have even hit them with the Uno reverse card yourself. On another note, friends achieving great things is a great way to motivate yourself to do great things. For example, if all my friends are getting married – well shit maybe I’ll just end up having to do some dating to get a plus one. If my friends want to go on this big lavish trip, I might have to work harder to get this bread and go on this trip too (I’m on salary so maybe this doesn’t quiet apply). What I’m saying is that a rising tide should lift all boats, the tide shouldn’t bury yours. You’re not getting left behind, your journey just isn’t the same as others. And that’s not a bad thing – that’s just a you thing.
